DedicationTo those who seem to have lost their way
And are forever determined to find it.
To those who know that darkness and death
Are but imposter's leading to light and life.
|James Kavanaugh's book
of poetry for men struggling to know
themselves. It is also for women who care and
are trying to understand them. With the power
and insight that have characterized the more then
three million books in print, he writes in his
"Men are not easy to know, even by other men. we learn to hide feelings at an early age until denial and pretend become a way of life. Thus our rite of passage is not a gentle one, especially since there is little guidance in the shaping of our hearts and minds.
"It is a rare women who understands men, since we learn to hide what seems too risky to reveal, and thus deny our very manhood to have peace...Often we hope that another marriage, a secret affair, or greater will revive us, only to discover that ingrained habits but assume a new addictive form...depression fills the vacuum of dead dreams, and a carefully concealed fear grows more tangible and destructive. We are victims of the only choices we were able to make, and starting over seems impossible.
"In truth the path to freedom and joy, through initially painful, is more exciting than difficult..."
"Like many men, I am still on my journey, but now I know that the blood and bruises of retracing steps and beginning again will not destroy me. Finally, the man that is emerging seems like me, with a growing faith in the quiet Inner Voice that is far more than dogmatic ideas and ancient arguments.
"This is a book of reflections I wrote during these last few years of my journey...I share them with you in the hope that my laughter and tears along the way might somehow bring you courage...I promise you this is not a book of rhetoric, but saga of life and near death. It is above all Tears and Laughter Of A Man's Soul."